In Case No One Has Told You Today
In case no one has told you today
In case no one has told you…I am here for you babe!
Do you ever need a pick-me-up? A little compliment to get that spring back in your step?
We need nourishment, and often as niceaholics we rarely get back the compliments we give out to others so freely. So I am taking it upon myself to help fill your cup a little bit.
Today I want to be your biggest cheerleader, your supportive best friend or whomever you need me to be to get you up and sparkling again 🙂
We often focus on the things we aren’t and the areas we are lacking in, then focusing on our strengths. Today we change all that.
For the next 17 days, I want you to text or email yourself one of the following statements/affirmations.
Read it, feel it, and pretend it has come from the person you need to hear it from the most. It will be so healing for you and give you strength on the days you need it.
Let’s dive in.
You are special
In case no one told you today, you are very unique. The things you are self-conscious about, are what make you special. There is only one you, so it is important you show the world the true you. No more hiding! Don’t feel you need to be like everyone else. Be you and be proud, the world needs you.
Your softness is strength
In case no one told you today, your softness is your strength. The world needs kind people like you. Don’t feel like your sensitive nature is a weakness, it is actually your superpower. You feel things so deeply and notice things others miss. You are intuitive and know the right thing to do to comfort someone or to make someone’s struggles feel a little lighter.
You are important
In case no one told you today you are important. There are people who love you and are inspired by you every day. You are missed when you aren’t around, you don’t notice it, but people miss your energy. Your presence makes people feel happy. You put people at ease and they love being around you.
You are loved
In case no one told you today, you are loved. You have people in your life that care about you and want to see you happy. They may not always show it the way you want them to, but they do love you. Sometimes we all need a reminder that we are loved and that is okay.
You are worth It
In case no one told you today, you are worth it. You are valuable, no matter what anyone tells you. You have strengths and weaknesses just like everyone else, but that doesn’t make you any less worthy of love and respect. You are important and your voice matters. Remember that when times get tough and you feel like you aren’t good enough. You are, and always will be, worth it.
You are safe
In case no one told you today, you are safe. Nothing can hurt you and you are safe from danger. The things you are worried about may or may not happen, but what I do know, is you will be able to handle it. You are strong and you will survive. No matter what happens in your world today, know that you are safe from harm and you will be okay.
You are beautiful
In case no one told you today, you are so beautiful. There are always things we wish were different about our appearance for sure, but beauty isn’t just looks. It’s who we are, it’s how we behave and how our actions make others feel. There is beauty within you my dear, focus on it and not just the beauty society tells us we should have. We are all beautiful women and you are no different. Go about your day knowing you are gorgeous.
You are appreciated
In case no one told you today, what you do is so appreciated. While you wish you could hear it from the people you care for, know what you do is noticed and valued, even if your loved ones don’t have the words to tell you. I know how hard you work and try to make everyone’s lives easier.
You are strong
In case no one told you today, you are really strong. You have been through some really difficult times and you are still here. If people really knew the challenges you have overcome, they would not believe it. Each time you have dealt with difficulties, it makes you even stronger. You can do hard things so there is no need to fear the unknown path ahead. You are resilient and you can deal with whatever comes your way.
You can start again
In case no one told you today, you can start again. Every time your head hits the pillow is an opportunity to start anew. If you have gone off course with your goals and feel like you’ve messed up, it’s ok just start again tomorrow.
You can make new choices
In case no one told you today, you do not have to follow the same path and can change direction at any time. You can completely reinvent yourself. Nothing is permanent, no matter how it feels. If you are not where you want to be in life and it doesn’t feel aligned anymore, just choose another path. It’s ok. You aren’t a failure, you’ve just changed and it doesn’t fit anymore.
You can say no
In case no one told you today, it’s ok to say no. It’s not mean, hurtful or selfish, even though it may feel like it. You can say no with kindness, it doesn’t have to be rude. Sometimes you just can’t, and that’s ok.
Think about whether you are helping or hurting by continuing to say yes when your heart isn’t in it. You are no good to anyone if you are stressed and tired.
You don’t have to carry everyone’s responsibilities for them, it’s ok to say I’m sorry I can’t this time.
Pro tip: Boundaries can be kind!
Boundaries are for you and only you. When you set a boundary there is absolutely no need to feel guilty.
As long as you are respectful and clear and make it about what you want, your boundary will be kind.
You deserve it all
In case no one told you today, it’s ok to have high standards. It’s really important you don’t settle for the wrong people or the not-quite-right purchase.
Do you know why? Because of the drift. The slow drift away from what you want, and into a life of compromise that others have created for you. You deserve to have the things you want, simply because you want them. Do not settle!
You have time
In case no one told you today, you have time to create the life you want. It is not too late, you haven’t ruined everything. You can decide on a new direction or new adventure in your life at any age.
Adjust your compass and start slowly moving towards the things you want in life, instead of always moving away from what you don’t. There is plenty of time, breathe and take the first step.
You can be ordinary
In case no one told you today, it’s ok to be ordinary. You don’t need to be exceptional, to be worthy of praise and attention from others. Being ‘ordinary’ and doing the small things in life with love and kindness, is just as valuable as doing the amazing things others often admire and then quickly forget.
It’s in these small moments of life that connections are made, relationships develop, and trust is built. Do not underestimate the ordinary life you live! It is what you will be remembered for.
You are smart
In case no one told you today, you are really smart. It doesn’t have to be in an academic sense, but I’m sure without a doubt, you know a lot about something others struggle with. It may be you’re good at hooking up your tv, you’re great with children, you can build things or you have the ability to feel that someone is upset.
There are so many things you know, others don’t. So don’t let others make you feel less than, because you don’t know a lot about their areas of interest. You are smart in your own right, know it and own it. Don’t let these people bring you down.
You are amazing
In case no one told you today, you are truly amazing. Think back over your life and all the things you have done, all the people you have met and touched with your beautiful energy.
While we tend to focus on our regrets instead, think about what we have achieved.
The risks you took, the adventures you had, and the hundreds of people you met along the way. You have overcome really difficult challenges, helped so many people with their problems, and had a lot of fun. You are an amazing lady, with unique talents, a big heart, and a truly beautiful soul.
A final note
So, there are 17 days of encouragement for you to enjoy.
I hope this helps provide some comfort to you on the days you need it.
You can also use these as journal prompts and write your thoughts on each of the statements for even deeper inner work.
I think you need a little encouragement from time to time, especially as you carry so much of the emotional load for everyone else!
Take care of yourself my darling niceaholic and in case no one told you today, always be kind to yourself 🙂
Love
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