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Before You Say Yes
It’s about the three seconds that go missing between someone asking you for something and “yes, of course” coming out of your mouth.
Short enough to read tonight, and you’ll have something to use by the end of it.
DOWNLOAD ITYours to keep. Nothing to fill in, nothing to confirm.
One small idea, a few pages, and a line you can borrow the next time someone asks.
What turns up from here
One email a week. Short, about something that actually happened rather than something I read somewhere, and written so you can do something with it the same day.
Here’s the thing I had backwards for years. I believed being nice was the problem, and that holding my ground would mean turning into someone colder and harder than I am.
That isn’t what happened at all.
I’m every bit as kind as I ever was. I just stopped being available to be walked over.
So that’s what these are for. Not toughening up, because you shouldn’t have to, and I’d hate it if you did.
Holding your ground and staying exactly who you are.
Some of what’s coming
- The words for the moment you go blank and someone is waiting
- Why the yes comes out before you’ve decided anything
- What to do about the guilt afterwards, when the boundary was reasonable
- What to say when someone keeps pushing after you’ve already answered
- Being on your own side when nobody is watching
